The Power of Belief

“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. And your values become your destiny.”

Many of us have subconscious beliefs and underlying commitments stemming from our childhood, life events, traumas, genetics, and other things that shape who we are. Take a look around you. Are you living the life you are dreaming of or wish that you had? Many of us are not truly living up to our full potential. Many of us also don’t understand why life is so hard, and things never seem to go the way we want. It would be nice to just win a million dollars and all our problems would be solved, right?

I believe that many people today are so anxiety ridden and depressed because we are being held back from our true destiny. That dream inside you is there for a reason, and you owe it to yourself and others to become the person you want to be, and achieve your dreams! In our society today, we are tied to time frames that are stressful, and we never seem to have enough time or money for everything we would like to achieve. If you’re somebody who dreams big, and wants to help others, I guarantee that was put on your heart for a reason. Imagine how many people would be effected if you could seriously implement what truly matters to you into your daily life. How many people would be effected positively? Your family, friends, yourself, and many others in your community? If this is the case, why don’t we start asking ourselves, “How can I afford not to achieve this if it is for the greater good of humanity and part of God’s plan? Who am I to stay stuck and keep myself small.” Instead of saying “I can’t afford to do this or that,” or “Life is too hard.”

By now you may be wondering how it is possible to achieve your goals and dreams when there are so many excuses and reasons as to why you simply cannot do it. I remember a few years back when my mind began heading down the rabbit hole. I often thought about how hard life is, how I couldn’t afford to do certain things, or how it has to be difficult to earn money. I looked at life as what is the point of trying, we are all screwed anyway. It can be really discouraging when you live in our fast-paced world, where we are always tied to the clock, live in a crappy economy, and hear of all the bad things happening in the world around us. It’s not uncommon to believe we are doomed to be honest.

I even remember when I was pregnant with Colette, I had always wanted to be a mom very badly. Now, I was wondering why I had been so selfish to need to bring a baby into this awful world. How terrible would her future be? I couldn’t instead think how wonderful it is that she decided to come join us here on earth, and how her presence would be a huge blessing. Also, how she came during this specific time for a reason. God has a plan for everything. Or the fact that she herself made such an impact on my life, that I had decided it was time for a change. Those were not current thoughts in my mind.

At first I was still stuck in the negative thinking, and wondered why I wasn’t happy, and how becoming a mom wasn’t enough to change my mindset alone. I allowed myself to dwell in guilt and shame because of it. No one really helps you with these things. I later realized that sulking in the emotions of guilt and shame was most definitely the worst thing I could do. I could no longer sit back and be a follower who was staying small, but it was my time to be a leader and grow, despite any doubts that I had at the time.

So how did I do that? How am I now the person that old Amber had no idea how to become?

Old Amber was very passive, kept her opinion to herself to please others, was always looking for approval and validation. She didn’t understand how boundaries work, let alone know how to set them. Especially with people she loved. The old Amber had low self esteem, and constantly resonated in guilt and shame for not being able to do anything right. The new Amber is now confident, worthy, has boundaries, no longer cares what other people think about her, and lives life for the now, and in the now, instead of putting things off to the future. I finally broke out of some of my toughest challenges, and you can too!

Take a look at your life again. Now, what are some areas that you would like to improve upon, or stuck points that you have? What are your underlying beliefs you are holding that cause you to remain stuck and operating the same way without change? What caused those beliefs as well?

If you believe money is hard to come by, it will be.

If you believe people don’t like you, they won’t.

If you believe you have to have a perfect body to be worthy, you will always dislike yourself.

If you believe your worth is tied to how much you get accomplished, it will be.

If you believe you don’t have time, you won’t have any time.

If you believe change is impossible, it will be!

I found many reasons throughout my childhood that caused little Amber to develop certain false beliefs and believe them to be true. I then implemented some tapping protocols, as well as some tactics from my psychological kinesiology class that I will be practicing on others at some point as well. Even though it felt wrong, uncomfortable, and not true, I continued to push new beliefs on my subconscious mind. Every day I believed them a little bit more. I designed my affirmations to purposely reprogram my beliefs. I went from believing that I don’t have the power to achieve my dreams, to believing I was made to achieve my dreams!

My message here is, don’t wait until you’re comfortable, or it’s the right time, or you have the money. DO IT NOW, DO IT SCARED, and DO IT ANYWAY. Just make the decision to start. Become aware, and make the commitment to do the inner work. Don’t let your brain stop you. You’ve got this <3

Xo Amber